Every Erotic Scene is Different…
“Oh, writing sex is easy, just basically slapping bodies together, Tab A, Slot B and so forth.” Yeah, right. Erotic romance is written primarily for women, and we don’t really go for the cold call “hey baby, wanna f#&k” approach. Our minds need to be wooed before our bodies can engage. It’s no different when we read an erotic romance. There must be a certain level of intensity that brings in the emotions and relationship developing between the characters outside the bedroom.
Remember Disney’s Little Mermaid, when Sebastian the crab was singing about setting “the mood”? It’s funny that when Hollywood tries to tackle romance and eroticism head-on, they do so badly at it (Exit to Eden, anyone?), but they’ll hit it spot-on as a side issue. For instance, I was just talking to a reader about the erotic scene between Neo and Trinity in Matrix Reloaded. You remember when they had the tribal drumming/dance scene, and kept flipping between that, all those writhing, wet, beautiful bodies, and Neo and Trinity, twined together, moving to the same rhythm in coitus? That scene reaches inside you, because it’s more than a tease to the libido. It’s building a strong link, an intensity, among the dancing people, and you also feel the emotions between Neo and Trinity building with the sexual pinnacle. That’s what good erotic romance does.
On top of that, each set of characters is different. They come to one another with different backgrounds, moral structures and sexual needs. For instance, in Unrestrained, Dale, my hero, is a retired Navy SEAL. He’s fifty years old, a sexual Dominant known as the “Master Craftsman” at his local BDSM club because of how he handles the needs of the submissives with whom he has sessions. My heroine, Athena, is a Southern steel magnolia widow who wants to explore her submissive cravings. But she’s also in her mid-forties, an accomplished businesswoman and someone who has lost a husband of 25+ years she loved very much. When two people come together, their needs/desires begin a dance of change, growth and melding, influenced by who they each are, and who they want to be together. I have to stay in touch with that to be sure I give them the love story, as well as the love scenes, that best fit them.
I hope you enjoy Dale and Athena’s unique love story.
Note: This book was previously titled Letting Go; updated 6/2013.
Athena is a widow and an accomplished businesswoman. She’s the type of person who exceeds expectations in business, family–life in general. Since the death of her husband, she’s had a desire to explore submissive cravings she’s had for some time. The hitch is, Athena is known as a Mistress, because that’s the role she played to her husband.
Though she knew her submissive nature was strong enough to serve her husband as a Domme, because that’s what he needed, it’s when she meets Dale, a retired Navy SEAL, that she attempts to discover what her own submissive desires are. But letting go of that control is harder than she expected.
Fortunately, Dale is an accomplished Master who can help her accept the true nature of her submission, rather than how she’s tailored it to meet the expectations of others. But in the course of learning what letting go means, both of them will learn a bit more about the nature of love between Dominant and submissive, and how it defies all categories.