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The Darker Side of BDSM Erotic

The writing of Bind and Keep Me was a whole new eye-opening experience for me. Though I’d read capture fantasies with dubious consent before (and those two are really closely interwoven) I’d never tried writing one. Take Me, Break Me was my first book that dabbled its toes in capture fantasy, but it barely got those toes wet. Some readers saw that story as consensual. My aim with this Pierced Hearts series has been to make the dubiousness ever more dubious with each book. I plan to do a minimum of three books so Book 3 is going to be a doozy if this one is anything to go by.

Anyway, as I wrote, I discovered things. Nasty delicious things to do with dubcon that you don’t get to reflect on until you have to delve into the guts of these stories. I did a lot of delving. Here are some of my personal discoveries.

The Sliding Scale of Meanness

Dubcon capture stories range from romantic bodice ripper style all the way to the woman being a slave in a dungeon where anything might happen, and it frequently can drift into some non-consent. To me, the big thing that stood out as different in these was the meanness of the man toward the woman. I’m not talking just the growly voice and maybe him saying things like, woman, your place is at the foot of my bed, kneeling.

No, not just that meltworthy type of declaration, because that sort of thing can still end up in love and romance. I’m talking truly mean where he will do whatever it takes to get the woman to be his, including totally ignoring anything that might otherwise be good for her.

One on the mean scale is him taking away her clothes just because he wants to. Ten on the mean scale is chaining her up in his spare room naked so he can share her with his friend, because that way she’s going to be more pliable to his will. Or I think that’s a ten? Maybe you have other ideas as to what a ten is? In dubcon, deep down inside her mind, the reader will see that she is aroused by what happens and still wants it to happen. In non-consent, she won’t be willing, even in her mind. That’s the distinction.

This is why dubious consent can only occur in fiction, but not in real life. Because in real life, if the man can’t tell for sure if she is consenting (because he isn’t in her mind), then it is legally rape. Which is why I like to stress, over and over, that we are in fictionland and fantasyland here.

The Perversion of the Black Moment

Discovery number two was that the black moment in a romance where hero and heroine are torn apart by something, where we are on our knees begging for them to get that HEA ending, is still there in dubcon. We are still on our knees wanting them back together…but she is desperately trying to get away from him. If you’re one of these readers, welcome to the Twisted Minds Club. 😉

I was so shocked when I truly saw the above for what it was. I mean, it is a little sick, yet so yummy!

Discovery three. Capture fantasy is not a darker side of BDSM.

Because it isn’t BDSM. Actually I knew this already, but it sounds better as a discovery!

BDSM is consensual, so if you have any doubt about whether what happens is consensual, it’s no longer BDSM.

But…but, but, Klaus is a Dom. He became one in Take Me, Break Me. And I have dragged him into a dubious consent tale. I call this corrupting a Dom. I was so worried I’d get a backlash from my kinky beta readers, but no. They were all good with it. Perhaps because I made it clear, several times throughout the story, that this cannot be called BDSM. Adding bondage and flogging it doesn’t make a story BDSM if there is nonconsent or dubcon. And a Dom who keeps going past the time when no or its equivalent has been clearly communicated in any way, is no longer a Dom.

In most of these dubcon stories, the man does not get identified as a Dom. Poor Klaus. I truly did badly by him. He lost his Dom card in Bind and Keep Me. But he had good reasons for what he did to her. At least he thought they were good reasons. I leave it to you to decide if he was right.

Me, I think he was a bad, bad man. 😉

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How far would you go to protect your love and your life?

When two deaths turn his world upside down, Klaus must wrestle with a problem that goes soul deep. With Jodie it was capture fantasy but now he’s made the fantasy real, dragging her along as his accomplice. No one should feel so good about something so wrong.

Maybe his soul is darker than he feared. Maybe the rules shouldn’t apply to him.

Warning: Dark erotica, M/f/f, BDSM themes, capture fantasy, and dubious consent.

Contains spanking, bondage, caning, and piercing, and one alpha possessive man about to toss aside his morals and take what he wants.

Early praise for Bind and Keep Me:

“Bind and Keep me, leads you down a depraved path full of dark desires that you know are so wrong, but feel too good for you to care. Cari Silverwood makes losing what we all cherish—our freedom—sinfully erotic.” – Bianca Sommerland, author of Deadly Captive

“Enthralling and seductive, BIND AND KEEP ME brings the taboo into our basements and locks us inside. A must-read for lovers of dangerous erotic fiction.” – Skye Warren, author of Wanderlust

 

Explicit Excerpt

“I’m not yours.” Her answer was quiet and tremulous.

Such bravery in the face of overwhelming superiority.

I stopped with my palm pressing her upper back down onto the mattress. Enough pressure that she could feel my strength, enough so that she tensed and then, as I didn’t relent, she gave in, her head lowering, her body quivering. Was she a true submissive? I was fairly certain she was.

“You’re pretty, beautiful even. Desirable. Fuckable. I scare you because I like pain more than you can comprehend. I’m not going to kill you. I’m not going to carve off your flesh and eat it. But, little toy, I am going to hurt you more than you think you can take.”

She froze in the middle of inhaling. I smiled and grasped a big handful of those dark locks just above her nape. I levered her head back until she was arched and her breasts were no longer concealed beneath her. So I took one in the grip of my other hand. “Mine,” I whispered. “You’re mine whether you fucking want to be or not.”

I squeezed both her breast and the fistful of hair, and I leaned down to look into her fear-darkened eyes.

“You need to learn not to be afraid of pain,” I murmured. “And you know why?”
She swallowed and I felt her endeavor to shake her head. Long strands of her hair fell across her face.

“If you lose that fear of pain, you will lose some of your fear of me. Not all, some. I’m not your nemesis, girl, I’m just going to be your master.”

Glossary of US and Australian terms

In the interests of not jerking most of my readers out of the story with some unfamiliar word usages, I opted to sometimes use the US word instead. However, since I completed the book, I’ve been told by many American readers that they’d rather I use the Aussie words.

I’m not entirely convinced. Since I think I have far more American fans than Australian, I may still be tempted in Book 3, “Make Me Yours, Forevermore”, to use some American terms. If you want to tell me otherwise, feel free to pop a comment on my facebook wall.

This example is why I hesitate:

Klaus put on his thongs and strolled out the door to take his daily walk on the beach.

US word vs Aussie

Cell phone = mobile   US term used in the story

College  = University or Uni   Australian word used

Dishcloth = tea towel   I used the US word

Flip flops = thongs   This was explained in the story

Cooler = esky   US word used with the Australian word

Popsicle = ice block   US word used

Shrimp = prawn   This was explained in the story

Spatula = egg flip   This was explained in the story, and it’s a regional Australian term that isn’t used nationwide, I think

SUV = Four wheel drive   US word used

There may be others I substituted but missed seeing. I have become so used to doing this in my stories that it’s almost automatic. I have also used US spelling throughout. Though this book is self-published both of my earlier publishers, Loose Id and Lyrical Press, used US spelling.

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About Cari:

Cari Silverwood writes the way the world should be – dangerous and sexy with bullets piercing the darkness and lovers wrenched close by ropes. When you need escape, when you need that rough lover to bring you to your knees, here you will find stories to singe your fingers. The taste of adventure, the tang of BDSM, the burn of fantasy run wild. Brace yourselves, if you dare to read.

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Cari is giving away – Grand prize: A copy of Take Me, Break Me and a $20 gift card from Amazon

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Denise Smith

I would say the submission to another person (sexually) it interested me the most

Robin Malone

I love the Dom/Sub relationship as long as it stays to it’s true form, which is in actuality, the sub has the control. All it takes is that one word…their safe word and the Dom stops. It’s that trust that the sub will be pushed to their limit without using it…and the Dom will stop everything if the sub does.

Rita

The Dom-sub relationship and all trust that it involves between sexual partners.

kp

thanks for the giveaway!

Inga

My favorite part is the trust between the partners in the relationship. It has to be there in order for it to work..

Gabrielle

The trust and depth of emotions is what appeals to me the most.

Gi

The relinquish of control.
Thanks for the giveaway.

Timitra

Very interesting post!

Cari Silverwod

I had fun writing this post, Timitra. The twisted psychology of these stories is what makes them so interesting to write.

Deborah K

I like my chocolate and my fiction dark and Cari Silverwood’s Bind and Keep Me looks as delicious as the finest dark chocolate. I can’t wait to devour it. The small taste you gave was not enough. Thanks for the giveaway.

lisa w

Loved the first one– can’t wait to see where this one goes!

Carolyn Walker Rhodes

I haven’t read any of Cari’s work but would love to check her out with this book.

Darcus

I really like the aspect of not being in control. I’m one of those people that doesn’t like to lose control but in the bedroom… it’s such a turn on to not be in control of what will happen next or even KNOWING what will happen next. I like a little pain too. 😉 I don’t go crazy with it, but a little goes a long way.

Melissa Dianne

Great giveaway. Look like I’ll have to check out Cari’s books since they look interesting.

infinitieh

Reading BDSM is a safe way to explore some of the bondage situations that would not be possible in real life. I know I can’t give up that much control in person.

JessS

Uuh yeah egg flip is definitely regional because I’ve never heard it used (and I’m in Sydney!). I’ve always used spatula. Ooh and I heard somewhere that a lot of other countries don’t use the word Uni which just seems so odd.
Thanks for the giveaway!