5 Ways to Sprinkle Spice onto Your Love Life
by Sex Therapist (& Fictional Character!) by Allie Shelby
Disclaimer: Allie Shelby is a fictional character from Kelsey Browning’s debut contemporary romance, Personal Assets. Although Allie is credentialed on paper :-), she is a figment of a crazy woman’s imagination and can no more fix the problems in your love life than can a naked mole rat. Take Allie’s advice at your own risk.
Welcome, everyone! I’m Allie Shelby, and I own Personal Assets, a sexuality and body image counseling service in Shelbyville, Texas. Yes, I know you’re wondering how much business I get in a small town. You’d be surprised. Women everywhere struggle with their bodies and being assertive enough to ask for what they want, what they deserve from their lovers.
So Kelsey tells me you’re ready to open your figurative cabinet and sprinkle a little spice on your love life. But you’ve been dining on the bland stuff for so long, you can’t settle any longer for mild. You want to go all the way—cayenne hot or even Bhut Jolokia nuclear. Good for you! Today, I’ll share a few techniques to bring the heat back into your bedroom (or anywhere else you want to get hot!)
Fantasies – When’s the last time you shared your go-to fantasy with your lover? Oh, he’s got that one down, you say? What about that secret fantasy lurking back in the corner of your mind, the one even you have a hard time admitting turns you on? If it’s too hard to talk about it, just initiate a simple enactment with your guy. Or if prep on his part is critical, what about writing him a sexy little love letter and making a play date?
Role playing – Yes, this might be a part of your above super-secret fantasy, but this role play should be a staple in your love kitchen. Which romance novels do you read again and again? Ones about pirates? Haughty earls? Vampires? Sports stars? This tells you the type of role playing you should ask your lover to participate in. No doubt, he also has his fantasy female roles. Show him you’re willing to star in his, and he’s more likely to get on board with yours!
Toys – Girl, I’m not talking about Legos or a Thomas the Train set. If you don’t have any toys in your bedroom, get thee to a toy store (online if you’re shy). If you’re looking for a starter toy, my friend Roxanne keeps a display case full of PromiseKeeper XLs at Red Light Lingerie. And if you haven’t been introduced to one of those, you’re in for a niiiice surprise :-). Make a wish list and share it with your guy. Also – if you like new playthings delivered to your door—in a discreetly wrapped box—every month, check out a subscription service like Spicy Subscriptions or Bedroom Chemist.
Lingerie – After the bloom is off a relationship, many women begin sleeping in boxer shorts and her man’s ratty old T-shirts. Hey, I’m as big a fan of moose PJs as any other woman, but you still need the good stuff. Underwear that makes you feel gorgeous, confident and sexy. Doesn’t have to be a drawer full of scratchy lace thongs. Ask your guy what he loves. You might be pleasantly surprised to discover his favorite look is you in his button-down shirt. Comfy and sexy. How can you go wrong? Set aside a small allowance each month to add to your lingerie stash. If you feel good, you’re more likely to make him feel good. And believe me, that good feeling will come back to you tenfold!
Laughter – This technique may not be as blatantly sexy as the other suggestions, but girl, if you aren’t laughing with your man, you’re not truly connecting with him. Watch a funny movie (Monty Python isn’t sexy if you hate it), go see your favorite comedian, gather a few YouTube videos that make you both howl. Laughter releases endorphins that help you and your lover bond. Before you know it, you’ll be laughing your way to fun and games in the bedroom!
These are just a few ways you can sprinkle the spice on your love life. Believe me, I know how tough it can be to put the spark back into a long-term relationship or flare it up on a new one. If you want to know more about how I brought the heat with Cameron Wright, you can read about us in Personal Assets!
What questions do you have for me about spicing things up in your own relationship or how I seduced Cameron Wright?
Sex therapist Allie Shelby has the professional credentials, but she could use a bit more practical experience. Finding the right man to bring out her inner bad girl is tough in a population-challenged Texas town. So when sinfully sexy Cameron Wright rolls back into Shelbyville, Allie wastes no time inviting him to join her in some hands-on research.
But while her personal life heats up, Allie’s business is about to crash and burn. And she has to convince Cameron that she’s one princess who’s not looking for a prince to ride to her rescue.
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“A hot man, a headstrong woman, and sizzling chemistry set against a homey Texas backdrop–Browning’s contemporary debut has all the assets that count!”
—Ruthie Knox, USA Today bestselling author of Flirting with Disaster
“Sinfully hot, sassy, and laugh-out-loud hilarious—everything a southern romance should be!”
–Macy Beckett, author of the Sultry Springs series
Kelsey Browning’s Personal Assets Debut Party on her Facebook page August 26, 2013! https://www.facebook.com/events/1395577987332440/
About the Author:
Kelsey Browning writes sass kickin’ love stories full of hot heroes, saucy heroines and spicy romance. Originally from a Texas town smaller than the ones she writes about, Kelsey has also lived in the Middle East and Los Angeles, proving she’s either adventurous or downright nuts. These days, she hangs out in northeast Georgia with Tech Guy, Smarty Boy, Bad Dog and Pharaoh, a Canine Companions for Independence puppy. She’s currently at work on the next book in her Texas Nights series and The Granny Series. Give her a shout at Kelsey@KelseyBrowning.com or drop by www.KelseyBrowning.com. For info on her upcoming releases, subscribe to her Sass Kickin’ News.
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